If she is married, I think you should let her go. In my opinion, family comes first.
Besides, there is plenty of fish in the sea and you'll find your soul mate, your perfect match!

Thanks for the reply Mr. Chang! I do want to add that her present relationship is not a good one. She is a very spiritual and very caring and loving person and he is an alcoholic and drug user and doesnt care..He is not physically abusive but he is mentally abusive and hurts her emotionally on a regular basis. She is one of those people that does not like to give up, thinking in some way that some miracle of change will come about. She loves me and cares about me about as much as I do her. We are both very moral people and would never let our feelings lead to other things as long as she is with him. I have to be around her on a constant basis and I love her very very deeply. I am trying so hard to be patient and let her do whatever she is going to do without any persuasion from me..We talk so openly that it is very hard not to say things that might sway her one way or another..All I do know is that I dont want him to hurt her anymore because I care very deeply about her. I just dont know what to do to help her or myself with this situation..it is very difficult and hard on my heart...any more wisdom you can give me would be greatly appreciated.

Hi, yes, it is really hard and complicated. You can so kind that you respect her decision and let her feel free. I have no idea if she has ever talked about her future and yours together. Love is to be happy for everything she likes. Although it is not a good way to wait for the miracles, I guess she have no idea what to do either. For the things out of your control, let time show you. Good for you and be happy.