I'm a female dragon 8-14-1988. My man is an Ox 4-18-1997. What things will we need to work on?

You shOuld talk to him much and do a work that he think you notice him and get help him

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You are an Earth Dragon and he is a Fire Ox. These are not compatible signs, no matter what you do, one or both of you will inevitably learn to hate the other. Theoretically, the female Earth Dragon could try to become submissive and tame, while the Fire Ox could try to be more patient and put up with the things that annoy him, but both of these things go against the nature of each sign. In other words, you'd have to literally fight yourself to try and be different, to please the other person. Everyone can play a role for a few days, or weeks, but eventually you'll get tired of acting something that isn't you.