family/ friendship. career

i am a female born in september 14th, 1990 in bintaro jakarta, indonesia.

1) i dont trust my family at all. is it true that my friends and family and my church families can look through my phone messages without me noticing it? i never had a best friend in my whole life because of trust issue. my cousin's wife stole my money before and told my friends to spies on me by asking me where are you? what are you doing? is this job my feeling or is it actually happened? the pattern is all there but i dont have concrete prove.
2) would i ever get enough people to be by myside or everyone is gonna treat me the same where they fall into my family selfishness to actually spies on me?
3) when should i leave my parent house for good? like what year and month.
4) i always wanted to be fashion stylist. would i ever get to be fashion stylist after i am done with school? or should i just jump now with just online course like school of style?
5) if i go to school for that certificate, can i have another personal business on the side first before jump into that one. i would like to have home child care business while pursuing fashion stylist. would it work?