My boyfriend & I are suppossed to be 95% compatible but are not getting along at all. ,

Im a rat born 11-30-72 & my boyfriend is a dragon born 11-9-76. We are supposed to be 95% compatible. But we seem to be having just the opposite occurrence in our lives right now. We are alike in many ways almost too many ways. And we both have or had an extremely strong and passionate connection together , but are falling away from each other because we are butting heads in every single way. My question is why would this be happening? What are we doing wrong or what can we do to get past this? Can we successfully get past this and have the happy life we both long for together ? It's like he can't see me Nd I cant realm see him so we completely misunderstand each other and our intentions.