Answered by Nancy from USA | May. 23, 2013 09:52
Love is a journey, not a destination. When you look at the journey you're having currently with this fellow with all honesty, what are the most distinctive flavors? If, when you evaluate it in these terms, you can taste a deep caring, a sense of being seen, honored and treasured - then it's more likely that a positive mutual journey will be possible. If, on the other hand, the taste is bitter, or salty, or unsavory due to not feeling safe or held in importance by him, then an important threshold awaits. That threshold is the one you cross over when you place your own well-being in the center of your life and look for another who wants and cares about you enough to truly support YOUR journey as much as his own. Having said that, men need, more often than not, to be taught what we women need from them. Directness of speech is very helpful. If you speak in terms of your own needs and desires, this is the best approach. Not making him wrong, but letting him know who you are, what you're experience is, and what his behaviors means to you. If, in sharing this information, he responds and changes, this would be a good sign of progress. If he turns away or does not make any positive changes in regard to you, that should tell you that he's not a good match for you. In any case, I was touched by your question, and wanted to respond. Good journey to you....
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