Wondering if Wood Pig and Earth Tiger can be soulmates?

My boyfriend is a wood pig 10/17/95 and I am a Earth Tiger 02/10/98 we have been together ever since I turned 18, so about eight years. We tend to argue a bit and we have had issues in the past such as infidelity and lying and what not, I think it was mostly due to the fact that we got together so young and we had been using drugs and alcohol back then too. We both are very regretful of the bad we have done and pain we caused each other and have committed to having an honest relationship and have learned to forgive each other to heal and be able to trust each other again. It has been years since either one of us has done anything to hurt the other. Sometimes I just feel like I am wanting more from him in regards to attention and I just wonder if that is just a Tiger thing and I am possibly too clingy and should appreciate time apart more to do things we like such as hobbies and what not or if I am in the right and he should spend more quality time with me?? I just feel like we do not do enough together or are not physical enough together and I am not sure if it is just because we have been together so long we just do that less or if it is normal?? Please please help 🙏