I was born in the year of the Rat, Jan 22, 1961. I would like to have a harmonious and happy family

My husband, year of the Dragon, Mar 5, 1964 and one of my daughters, a twin, Jan 29, 1990 and her son Jan 4, 2017 live with us. Since she was a child, my daughter has been hot-tempered. She now has a much more restrained attitude. My husband and she do not get along at all. She will not let go her anger towards the way he raised her. He was bi-polar it turns out. None of knew when he was going to go off, my other two daughters have forgiven him. He is medicated now and much more stable and kind. She refuses to see this even though he supports her and her son after a traumatizing divorce, her husband was born July 17, 1994. Could you tell me how to have harmony and for her to be grateful, and really know we love her?