My wife was born 19 Sep 1971 and I was born 7 Feb 1969. We are working on a divorce. Were we not ok?

It is hard to say if you are not a match from the beginning. Just too many factors to have impact on it. However, In Chinese Zodiact, Monkey and Pig are not match and they are even said to be poles apart sometimes. There is an old saying in China, people is to mediate but not to pull off. Anyway, I would say, if you have think deeply about your problems and get an answer that you all degree, your decision will be respected.