Who am I compatible with? It’s very confusing I am a fire horse born 21/10/1966

While it’s easy to see who yr compatible with eg. Tiger and sheep what about the elements match?

Both my parents are metals and my ex husband metal rabbit which I’ve found very forceful controlling, and cruel!

Wood I think is supposed to be more of a balance but the nearest my age would be a dragon any other compatible sign and elements are not around my age it would be like going out with my dad!