I am sheep he is rat we are going through some rough times

Rob, in fact you two don't have very serious problems. Every couple has rough times. You two just escape and do nothing to save your relationship. Instead, you hide your dissatisfaction in your heart. As time goes by, it grows bigger. Finally, it might become the last straw that destroy your relationship.

Stop the "cold war" and try to communicate with each other effectively. It's not a shame to be the first one who give in. If he doesn't answer your messages, you can come to see him in person.