I'm 38 yrs old girl, wood tiger and this year been having family problem because of miscommunication

My family are arrogant and whenever I tried to help them instead i get yell at and think I'm stupid . Even cleaning the house I get scold at . I cleaned the house at Least 1-2 days per week. If I don't my other family visiting thinks I'm lazy. My family consist a woman dragon- boy snake - boy pig - boy ox. We are always fighting of silly and unimportant subject. I think it's a waste of breathe and silly to fight over little unimportant things. To them every things is important. Even accidentally locking the door while they are out side. they come in cussing and kicking the door and saying bad things. i dont know why they are so fustrated and confusing or bad attitude. To others I am a good / helpful person but not my family.