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Asked by Deepa from london | May. 22, 2016 08:30

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Relationship problem: I am female born in 26 March 1983 India and my partner born in 28 Oct. 1975.

we have a child born in 31 October 2011 London and settled in London. My issue is I am getting married on 26 May 2016, but I don't feel happy this time, I love him so much but from 6 months I am seeing he changing a lot , his love became less, he ignores my talk, I don't know what happen , it make me so upset. I cant live without of him, with our son he is good , caring , I am happy with that, I asked him so many times is I done anything wrong , he said no , he always say I am busy and tired. Now three days is remained to get married , so I am confused?

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Answered by Helin | May. 22, 2016 20:25

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Deepa, you are really suggested to figure that out before getting married.
According to your description, it is very likely that he is going through a tough time at work. The heavy pressure from work makes him tired. If I'm right, what you should do is to give him comfort and support to help him get through it.

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Answered by Deepa | May. 23, 2016 12:26

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Thanks Helin. I will do my best to make him happy and our child. I just want them to be happy and loved. Once again thanks for replying it made me relax.

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Answered by Peter | May. 23, 2016 16:45

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Deepa,
Don’t lose heart, just because lately your man behaves oddly. He may indeed tell you the truth, and is under a lot of pressure. His sun is in Scorpio, while yours is in Aries. Your sun is incompatible with his sun. He was born in the year of the Wood Rabbit. You are both highly compatible. This is a difficult year for the Rabbit. Next year is his opposite year. So with no fault of your own, you two are experiencing problems. You two have a high rate of getting along with each other in marriage. Your son is compatible with both of you. Being Metal Rabbit he may cause his father the Wood Rabbit a lot of damage to his property in the house. According to astrological reckoning, you were married since you moved in with him. This ceremony you are going to have on the 26th is just a legal formality. You may have to change the day you sign the marriage contract either to 25th or to 28th of May, as there are only few days on this month of 2016, when marriages are auspicious.

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Answered by Deepa | May. 28, 2016 02:37

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Thanks Peter for your reply, we got married on 26 May 2016and we cant change the date because it was decided by council and they don't have date for 25 and 28 May also. But once we got married, he been so good with me. Because we love each other very much, our son make Our love strong. So thanks for your reply again

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Answered by David | May. 28, 2016 19:36

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Hi, I just wanted to say that you can't make other people happy unless you work on your own happiness. Obviously, helping your family be happy is part of that, but if you feed your husband but not yourself, then he will get fat and you will get weak, which obviously isn't ideal. I see in 5 years time you having an excellent and strong marriage, but it will be shaky at times in the beginning. Keep strong and be patient - really work at being patient in the short term and try not to react to small incidents. Your husband has your best interests at heart, but he isn't a mind reader. Help him to know you better...

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Answered by Peter | May. 29, 2016 00:18

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I wish to you and to your husband all the best, and I can assure you that you will always be happy together.

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Answered by Deepa | May. 29, 2016 03:48

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Thanks Peter😊

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Answered by Deepa | May. 29, 2016 03:57

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Thanks David for you reply. I will make my self happy and my husband and son too.

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Answered by Rashan | May. 30, 2016 22:54

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Deepa, you have likely already gotten married, and I think that's tragic. Marriage doesn't fix those kinds of problems in a relationship. Communication is a one of the most significant pillars of any relationship. Talking about things, good, bad and indifferent. He doesn't trust you enough to be honest and unless he is suddenly not attracted to you, then I'd question his faithfulness and loyalty. He isn't being there for you and it appears that you are doing your best to make time for him. Having arguments is normal. Yes, its true that you will not ALWAYS be happy. No, you shouldn't expect change and have to appreciate each others flaws BUT... a complete flip of personality seems like a departure from the relationship. Thankfully that hasn't seeped into his duties as a father. Again, this may be too late, but if a man is IN LOVE with you, he will do whatever he can to keep you. I'd say, if you find someone who makes you smile, who checks up on you often to see if you're okay, who watches out for you and wants the very best for you. That's the person you don't let go of. If, not let go. Don't hold on because you think there will be no one else. Truth is, there will always be someone else. You've got to believe that you are worth more than being taken for granted and ignored by someone who isn't showing you that they really care. You have to believe that someone will see what you are really worth and treat you the way you should be treated. I don't think that you are saying "I Do" to that person, unless you are leaving out some really important details.

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Answered by Deepa | May. 31, 2016 04:53

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Thanks Rashan for your reply . You are right I know. I n my family , I was the most sacrifice girl, just to make everyone happy, I never thought about my happiness. When I been in love with my husband , I done the same thing, but now I changed my self I try to make myself happy first, but I always respect my husband , I tell him you have to change for good if these relationship has to work properly. I am trying from my side to make it worth but now my husband has to do that, let hope he will do that

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