my son (us citizen) marrying chinese girlfriend

Question

My son has been in China for 4 years and is marrying his Chinese girlfriend of 3 years. We went over and have met with her parents who are wonderful people. We agreed to pay for the  wedding except the wedding bands, which they are paying for. We are also paying their airfare to come to the US for the ceremony here. There was no mention of the betrothal gift to the parents. Do you think this is still expected? We cannot afford that on top of everything else!

Jennie · Answer

Betrothal gift is something very traditional in China. But as it is a marriage between two cultural backgrounds, I think the parents will understand if you do not give it. Maybe you can further talk about it with your son or your daughter in law. However, I advise you to prepare some souvenirs. It's nothing related to the marriage, but a gift for friends from afar. And if they go to your country for attending the wedding, they may will bring some gifts from China for you too.

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My son (US CITIZEN) marrying Chinese girlfriend