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Asked by Iy from singapore | Feb. 04, 2016 17:57

About:Ancient Chinese Marriage Custom

Married daughters reunion location

Both my parents are gone. However I have a unmarried sister that will host the reunion dinner at her home which some of my siblings and family will gather. However the problem now is that my wife's family is insisting that we should go to her mothers home for dinner. My eldest brother also insist that we should go to my sisters home for reunion so question is according to traditions its it right that I call the shots to decide which family to go to for reunion? What's the correct decision according to Chinese customs? Thank you.

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Answered by Zhang | Feb. 05, 2016 21:20

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Filial piety is the most important virtue in Chinese culture. Parents always come first in every thing. Personally, thinking in your wife's shoes, the reunion of her family should not be missed.

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Answered by Adele | Feb. 06, 2016 03:47

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Oh, what a dilemma! Both of them are important and I am hoping the two dinners are not held at the same time. Then you can join both. Otherwise, according to Chinese culture, the wife usually would go to her husband’s reunion because she has been a part of the family in-law, especially during the Spring Festival. It is considered ominous if having the married daughter to spend the festival in her parents’ home. Anyway, you should discuss about it and make a final decision.

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