how can i apply for D Visa to stay and live in china with my family and the cost？

Walaa, the condition for getting the D type is that you have to get permanent residence status in PRC first. If you didn't get it, I'm afraid you can't apply for the D type. Anyway, would you tell me do you have some family members in PRC or not? If you have, you can possibly apply for the Q1 type or S1 type. The cost is AED 110 if you apply from UAE. You should submit your passport and a photocopy of it, a fully completed application with a full-face passport photo, an invitation letter from this family member, your relationship proof, and a copy of the person's passport and PRC residence permit.