Why male sheep female rabbit say they're a match but we keep arguing.

Hi, I'm so interested in Chinese zodiac that I keep checking who's who. Anyway, according to a website my hub and I are a perfect match , me being a rabbit 25/05/75 and him 3/09/67 sheep.... But we can't stay a full week without arguing! We have so much differences yet when we are ok we can have a good laugh.... My husband in my eyes he is very lazy and selfish. He is jealous of me but I in a selfish way. He can hurt with his words and I feel he runs away from responsibility. He depends on me a lot which make me very frustrated. He knows I love him so he feels he can do whatever it pleases him. I try to live a normal life between us as we have two kids which are a monkey girl a little boy dragon but when he starts his nonsense i get angry and remember how much he hurts me every time. Please give me some advise. Thank you Jennifer x