visa to china shenzhen

I am Jordanian lady I am in Nigeria now with my brother and his family we want to go in December to Hongkong and visit shenzhen in china from there we applied all to Chinese visa from the Chinese embassy in Nigeria but they refused to give me the visa because I am not resident there like my brother and his family. Can I send my passport by DHL Jordan and one of my family there will come to your office to get the visa and send it back to me ????