Male wood tiger 1974 and Female fire dragon 1976

We have been married for a while and lack of communication is a real issue i face with my husband. I feel So hurt and angry that i take it out on every little thing, so he has completely shut me out. What is the best way to resolve this? I feel like when we are good, we are really great together. When we are not,it is like war and we are both feel very hurt. What approach will give the best balance?