Male born in 1980 within bad relashionship

Shawn,
The table on this page at Love compatibility shows that Monkey and Rat have complementary understanding. I have to caution you that your yearly elements are destructive, since yours is Metal and hers is Wood, and metal cuts wood. If what you say is true, it is because she is not happy with you, because of your non-matching yearly elements. You probably heard the famous Opera sung by the late Luciano Pavarotti, with the famous refrain: “La donna e mobile” (the woman is wandering), so think about a polite separation. It would help the two of you. It could also be that your suspicions are unfounded, yet Metal and Wood are incompatible anyway. I wish the best of luck to both of you.