Is this the soul connection I have been praying?

I am 11/4/61 metal ox snake hr. My friend is 2/19/65. He is the one who came to me..he took my interest and we get along very well. We've been on dates. However, he goes hot then cold then hot! After time, I ask. He said he likes me a lot but all life he likes be by himself. Yet he does continue with me. I have started to fall for him & feel he has hurts. I know, from me I will be loyal & good for him. Will he always to me? Do you see our relationship going further and marriage? If marriage, when? He is very special...hard to get me this way!! Thank you