My date of birth is 13 January 1969 and his 9 October 1968

Ashlin,
You are both Earth Monkey. Two earth people find it hard to get along with each other. Your man is Libra and you are Capricorn. These two signs are not compatible either. Since you are both mature individuals, you may get a chance to have a good life together. You both have to put a lot of work in a marriage, which according to astrology has low compatibility ratings. If you marry this year of the next year, you could stay married, as your marriage entity would have the element Fire, from which both of you will benefit as you have Earth element, and earth always benefits from fire. Good luck to both of you.