I've had a terrible year and also having recently found love at this stage of my life.

Jessica,
In two days I'll tell you happy birthday. People born in the same year as you, had such a hectic year, which although is their year, kept them all under pressure. You didn't mention the date of birth of your kind gentleman, but I suppose he was born in the year of the Metal Ox. If this is true, then my advice to you is not to pursue this relationship, because although it may look to you enticing, in the long term it won't work. After your fire will subside, you will be the one looking for a way to get out of this relationship. If you don't care about long term, then go ahead. If he was born in the year of the Earth Ox, your relationship may have a chance. Good luck to both of you.