Compatability and Bond

My DOB is 1-18-85. I am unsure of my rat element(wood)?. I dated my boyfriend for a year. His dob is 3-13-82. He moved away recently 1.5 hrs away for a fellowship. He is busy and says he doesnt know what he wants now but still keeps connected. I somehow feel like our bond is inseperable and we will somehow stay connected forever. I am intuitive. But I cannot make him feel what I feel if he is not ready or able to understand. Are we meant for eachother shall I endure the pain and what it could be and move on.