Metal monkey 8-2-1980(male) and Fire Sheep 7-17 -1967(female) outcomes for our relationship

My mental monkey, yes is selfish at times, however can be shy and sensitive, and affectionate, he stated he loves me we have been friends, lovers and dating for awhile however would like move romance and to spend more time with each other however high stress job he has(state trooper), so I try to be flexible and express what I want, he tries. Any insite on how to improve our relationship would be great? thank you