I was born 8/7/62 my partner 4/11/70 are we comparable

For your and your parnter, you are comparable with each other. You love each other and think about issues on behalf of the other. You can satisfy with the other as well as leave some room for the other during the life.
For the isse with your child, I think you can try to solve it by communicating a lot them him or her and leaving him or her some private room. In these ways, things may improve a lot.