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Asked by Key from europe | Mar. 04, 2014 10:09

About:Chinese Zodiac Compatibility

Hi I am a Tiger (take shelter)... and I have the hard time finding a mate. what advice can you offer

I typically have many guys approaching me, but I am so picky and choosy and they dont have all the qualities I seek. They are either nice, and financial disaster or moody selfish and financial stable. I just can not find the perfect match.
I recently saw this guy and we were becoming acquainted but never got serious. IT lasted 2-3 months, he was the total opposite picture he painted of himself. So during that time, I met a friend of his that calls him brother. I have no interest in the friend; but the friend approached me afterward and stated he told the friend he likes me and wanted to get to know me more, well the guy i was first seeing told his friend he could have me.. So now the friend has been trying to pursue me and I just can not bring myself to a place to accept him seriously. I can find 101 reasons not to allow him to know me and 101 things wrong with him but in actuality the only reasons are because he is the friend of the 1st guy I was becoming acquainted with and he is getting himself settled financially. So any advice you can offer would be greatly accepted. Besides this guy is an Ox. Thank you!

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Answered by Kate | Mar. 05, 2014 03:10

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Key, there is no perfect man in the world. If there was, did you ever think carefully why he picked you up? Be realistic! He who hunts two hares leaves one and loses the other. Remember this? You are looking for someone to accompany you for your whole life, not a prince in a fairy tale. And don't be picky and choosy too.

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Answered by Key | Mar. 05, 2014 04:47

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Kate, thank you for your advice; however, I do feel I am being realistic and by no means am I being picked up by anyone. I am still single and still choose to be this way for now because the guy that I desire to become acquainted has not obviously arrived. When I speak of perfect, I am talking about character and standards. No hu man soul is absolutely perfect there will some flaws somewhere, but if a man is 35-45 yrs old you expect some form of responsibilities from him; a job or career, his own place, his own vehicle, decent credit something. You dont expect him to still be living home with mommy and daddy. Geesh! So this is what I was stating about the first guy. He was just plain deceptive and when I discovered this to be the case, I did not want any part of it. If a person covers up who they are when you first meet them chances are they will continue to cover up everything else--- that sounds like a dishonesty person.

Now the second guy was his friend for 10 yrs. I am not the sort of person two people that are close friends. Not happening! Besides he has not job and is attempting to get himself together financially as well, and he too is living with a close relative. So, tell me why would I even consider him. He is the close friend of the first guy and he too is not financial secure.

I am financial stable, no children, great career very independent. I am not saying I am better than them in any means but I do take life a bit much more serious when it comes to my affairs. All I am saying is the perfect mate for me would be someone that is equal par in their life and have something to bring to the table besides baggage. Is that being picky or too choosy? You are right I am looking for someone to accompany me for my whole life, but I do not want him to be a stress factor and I have to financial care or emotional care for him like I am his mother. He needs some some of manhood and take responsibility for his actions. Wouldn't you agree? Thank you

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Answered by Kate | Mar. 06, 2014 01:33

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Key, I have to say that you are very mature and realistic after reading your reply. I wish you found the one who has character you expect and meet your standards.

I actually don't have many requirements on my future husband. It doesn't matter that he doesn't have a car or decent credit. That he doesn't have car or money now doesn't mean that he won't have them in the future. We can have our car and become rich if we work hard together. That ideal man you want is not compatible with me. I am neither pretty nor rich so why such a successful man picks me up?

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Answered by Key | Mar. 06, 2014 03:55

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Kate,

Thank you for your rely. Love is not what I am seeking to marry him for, we have a life time to express the many depth of love. I seek someone who is compatible with me. You are right why should he pick you up? I can think of 100 reasons. You are highly intelligent for one. You have a pure hear for two. You would make a great mother for three. You may not think you are pretty but are we referring to outer looks or inner beauty? I dont know you and from the dialogue with you, I know you have both. Rich does not exist it is like being poor, but only a few in the world fall in the actual real category which is wealth.

He does not have to be equal to me, but at least he has to give me something to work with. Without a job it is impossible to take love to the utility place to pay the bill. You can not send love to the mortgage company to pay the house note. So, he must have something to place on the table. what can i do with a man with bad credit, no job, no responsibility, stay home with mommy and daddy. NOTHING... he is an overgrown boy not a man. That will be nothing but inheriting a headache. You would free the parents but inherit their pain in the ox.

Perhaps, I can compromise and increase my age limit I seek in a man. Now it is to 50, and they still seem to be late bloomers. I may need to hit the golden years of 65 to find a decent man. Hopefully he will be level headed and have taken life more seriously to look at his future.
Thank you so much. By the way, the man that does connect to you will indeed find a diamond. If he was smart he would surely cherish it and keep it close. We as women need to know our worth because if we dont then they will think we are some pawn shoppers items and want to take us for cheap (meaning not money wise but our standards as women). A real man knows that if he keeps the QUEEN happy then the KINGdom is his.

There is no Kingdom with out a Queen, it is only a lonely castle. No KINGdom can rise above its QUEEN. Know Thyself

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