when she does not wanna relocate...

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Hi. I am facing a strange situation with my chinese wife. Before the marriage she told me (and wrote me!) that she wanted to move overseas to follow me. Soon after the marriage she changed her mind. Did not want apply for the Visa nor wanted to move overseas. I told her that I cannot move there...and I gave her few months to decide what she wanna do.In case, do you think is it better to divorce (me and her only) or before doing that is it better to talk to her family and explain the discrepancy between what she told me before and what she is doing now? Might this be of any help? Thx

Linda · Answer

No one can make a decision for you. If you want to save your relationship, you should have a talk with her and her parents on this matter. If she finally agrees, both of you have a happy ending. If she still insists on staying in China and you are unwilling to settle down in PRC, you might consider of divorce.

Iamworkingonit · Answer

Iam 68 and my bride to be is 51, Our parents have past away, so we don't have to report to families. I come from New Zealand and my bride to be is from China. Do we have to get married in her country, or can we have it done in my country? I fell like I'am being pushed into a corner and there is only one way out.We are going to live in my country permanently, and I know she will have to get a visa and passport for my country. She tells me it is easy to get visa into China, but Iam not sure whether it will be the same into my country?Thank you for your service. Mike

Bruce · Answer

Your wife is right. It's easy for you to acquire visas for China compared with her application for New Zealand visa. To be honest, you can get married in your own country. I do not know whether your wife have kids. If so, you may follow her to register your marriage in China. Marriage in China isn't just about two people. It's an important event for two families. By the way, you said that you would live permanently with her in your own country. But I am afraid that it might be so easy to make her become a citizen of New Zealand.

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