horse and ox?

I'm a female horse and in 2009, I've fallen in love with a male ox, 6 years my juniour. He's my second love and the feelings are still strong although we were never together. Once a tarot reader said that we were a mismatch. My first love was a sheep and the love lasted 8 years. Although I felt we were compatible at that time (both in getting along and zodiac), I disagree with the way he treated me and created a utter mess in my life. If I met another partner whom I don't love but zodiac compatible, shall I trust zodiac signs or go with the one I love but zodiac incompatible?